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    • Course Guidelines & Best Practices
      27:39
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    • What is Self Love? Foundational Principles
      14:06
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    • Self Respect
      18:43
      03 Self Respect-Broadband High
    • Unashamedly You: Shame & Core Wounds
      30:07
      04 Shame 1-Broadband High
    • Ending the Guilt Game: The Simple Way to Cut the Strings to Guilt
      27:14
      05 Guilt Part 1-Broadband High
    • The Guilt Addiction: Deep Dive into Healing Guilt
      25:12
      06 Guilt Part 2-Broadband High
    • Understanding Boundaries and Toleration
      25:31
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    • Self Care
      23:34
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    • Your Self Care Assessment
      25:48
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    • Making Your Self Care Menu
      20:51
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    • Self Care Tools: Morning Pages
      11:17
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    • Self Care Tools: The "Whatever" Day
      16:59
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    • Self Care Tools: Daily Questions for Self Love
      7:45
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    • Self Acceptance
      30:10
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    • Four Laws of Human Behavior
      14:29
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    • Breaking the Cycle of Suffering
      21:55
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    • Understanding Shadow Work
      1:15:57
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    • Dealing with Anger
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    • Self Trust
      28:10
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    • The Devastation of Self-Betrayal
      16:37
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    • Stopping Strategies and Self Sabotage
      20:18
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    • Truth Telling and Little Lies
      14:11
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    • Trusting Your Intuition
      37:50
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    • Self Actualization
      33:39
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    • Harnessing the Power of Your Desire
      56:36
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    • Raising Consciousness
      33:40
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    • Your Unique Styles
      35:01
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    • Crossing to the Other Shore
      35:39
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    • Purple Rain: Healing to Release Guilt and Shame
      16:29
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    • Your Mystical Magical Garden of Life
      17:09
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    • The Heart Sutra: Return to Wholeness
      18:28
      ACISL Week 3 - Acceptance - Healing - The Heart Sutra
    • Release Doubt, Worry, Anxiety & Fear
      18:10
      ACISL Week 4 - Meditation - Release Doubt Worry & Fear
    • I Am: The Soul Connection
      19:22
      ACISL Week 5 - Self Actualization - Meditation - I AM The Soul Connection
    • Meditation for Self Forgiveness
      17:36
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    • The Self Love Healing Journey
      49:26
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    • Self Love Book Club: A Supplemental Reading List
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    • Self Care: Supplements to Give Your Body Everything it Needs
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    • Self Care: What Kind of Rest Do You Need?
      24:32
      ACISL-Supplemental-Different Kinds of Rest
    • 7 Rules for Self Love in Family Dynamics
      14:23
      ACISL Supplemental- 7 Rules for Self Love in Family Dynamics
    • Healing Body Shame
      9:53
      ACISL Supplemental- Healing Body Shame
    • Session 1: June 14, 2023
      1:24:00
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    • Session 2: June 21, 2023
      59:49
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    • Session 3: June 28, 2023
      1:18:05
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    • Session 4: July 12, 2023
      1:35:10
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    • Session 5: July 26, 2023
      1:10:02
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    • Session 6: August 2, 2023
      54:14
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    • Session 7: August 16, 2023
      1:19:20
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    • Divinity in Disguise
      2:51
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    • Andy's Creed
      2:33
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    • Permission slips
      2:43
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    • Drawstrings
      1:57
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    • Simplified
      2:51
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    • The Employee
      3:10
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    • Fast-Talking Your Way Out of Feeling
      2:32
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    • Little Lies
      2:28
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    • The special thing
      3:03
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    • Rush Hour
      3:19
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    • Time Bending, Part 1
      3:25
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    • Time Bending, Part 2
      2:51
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    • Tolerance
      2:45
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    • A Friendly PSA
      2:34
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    • Upgrading Vices
      3:16
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    • Exactly as you are
      2:26
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    • The Floodgates
      4:03
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    • Much much worse?
      2:33
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    • Fraudulent
      2:39
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    • Prove it
      3:25
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    • Coin Toss
      2:07
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    • Ridikulus
      2:26
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    • Always perfectly placed
      4:07
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    • One thing you can do without
      3:27
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    • About Ruby
      2:19
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    • Love Embodied
      3:42
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    • Don't be an "a-hole"
      3:01
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    • Doubtable
      2:24
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    • Going on a safari?
      2:27
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    • Just what I needed...
      2:26
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    • Singing Birds
      2:24
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    • Cosmic Deadline?
      2:54
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    • It gets worse...
      3:42
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    • Smoke 'em if ya got 'em
      2:37
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    • #NotLosing
      2:34
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    • Naked
      2:38
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    • Abou Ben Adem
      2:25
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    • Opting In
      2:56
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    • The Daffodils
      3:14
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    • With the winds at your back...
      2:24
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    • The Lock and the Key
      4:06
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    • The Confessional
      2:27
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    • Maxing Out, Insanity Part 1
      3:43
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    • The problem is incremental, Insanity Part 2
      2:23
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    • The Olive Tree
      3:28
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    • Falling Out
      1:50
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    • Falling Down
      2:20
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    • Falling Forward
      3:01
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    • Best. Decision. EVER!
      2:09
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    • Indebted
      4:20
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    • iOS Updates
      3:37
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    • The Cardinal Sin
      3:00
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    • Empathy and the Mystery of the World
      2:05
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    • Unity
      2:08
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    • The Mountain, the Squirrel, and You
      2:37
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    • Brain Training
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    • Catastrification
      3:06
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    • Been there, done that
      3:07
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    • From the edge...
      2:33
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    • Week 1: June 2, 2022
      1:09:22
      ACISL Group Call 06-02-2022
    • Week 2: June 9, 2022
      1:27:38
      ACISL Group Call- 06-09-2022
    • Week 3: June 16, 2022
      1:05:54
      ACISL Group Call 06-16-2022
    • Week 4: July 7, 2022
      1:11:46
      ACISL Group Call 07-07-2022
    • Week 5: July 14, 2022
      1:10:38
      ACISL - Group Call 07-14-2022
    • Week 6: July 21, 2022
      58:09
      ACISL Group Call - 07-21-2022
    • Week 2: February 3, 2022
      1:22:46
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 2
    • Week 3: February 10, 2022
      1:12:33
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 3
    • Week 4: February 24, 2022
      1:14:59
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 5 Trust
    • Week 5: March 3, 2022
      1:12:47
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 5 Self Actualization - Disappointment
    • Week 6: March 10, 2022
      1:09:07
      ACISL Winter 2022 Bonus Week
    • August 9, 2021
      1:18:58
      ACISL-Week 1-August 9-2021
    • August 16, 2021
      1:24:07
      ACISL-Week-2-August16-2021
    • August 23, 2021
      1:22:50
      ACISL-LIve Call August 22, 2021
    • August 30, 2021
      1:38:50
      ACISL-Live Call August 30 2021
    • September 13, 2021
      1:29:24
      ACISL-09-13-2021-Module 5
    • September 20, 2021
      56:38
      ACISL-09-20-2021-Wrap-up
    • March 9, 2021
      1:33:50
      ACILS Week 1 Complete Recording
    • March 16, 2021
      1:34:44
      A Course In Self Love - Week 2 - Self Care - Complete Recording
    • March 23, 2021
      1:38:09
      ACISL Week 3 - Complete Recording
    • March 30, 2021
      1:36:40
      ACISL Week 4 - Complete Recording
    • April 6, 2021
      1:23:57
      ACISL Week 5 - QandA
    • April 13, 2021
      1:37:45
      ACILS Week 5 - Self Actualization - Complete Recording

The Peace Treaty: Your Prerequisite for Self Love

Before we can begin to grow and develop Self Love, there is one simple step that cannot be skipped. It's so obvious that most people never even consider it. Or they give it only a passing glance and skip on to the "juicier" bits. 

Skipping this sets up a shoddy foundation for future growth. Unless this is done properly, you wind up with an ad hock armistice, which is basically saying, "I'm too beat down to continue, so I'm going to agree to put my arms down until I'm strong enough to fight again. And then it's ON." You've probably done this before by mistake. We're not doing that again...

What could be so important, you ask? 

Making peace. 

I don't mean for a moment. I mean a binding agreement for lasting peace and a commitment to complete reconciliation. Throughout this course we're going to explore many aspects of reconciling our relationship with ourselves, but unless we decide for peace and commit to it fully right from the get go, we'll never get past the surface layers. 

How do we do this? 

With a peace treaty, of course! 

If you're here right now, investing your time, effort, energy, and money into a course on Self Love, then t's not a stretch to assume that you are experiencing some level conflict within yourself. 

Maybe it's little battles that come up just in time to sabotage your happiness, break connection, or pull the rug out from your best efforts toward success. 

Maybe it's an ongoing campaign waged against the dark and scary parts of you that you just can't bare to look at and definitely don't want anyone to see. Like trench warfare, constant pressure to break the other side in a war of attrition. 

Or it could be all-out-no-holds-barred guerilla warfare on every aspect of your being. Constant gunfire and vitriol in your head in a brutal fight to the death. Booby traps and snipers everywhere, without a modicum of safety to be found. 

Whatever it is. It stops today. 

Right. Now.

You're going to write and sign a peace treaty with yourself. 

You can write it in any way you want, formally or informally (there is a more formal example for you to download here and below on this page). 

Your peace treaty needs to include the following...

  • A declaration of peace

  • A list of grievances- big and small. They all matter. You will very likely have more than listed on the example document. 

  • An absolute commitment to keeping the peace. 

  • Measures to be taken should this peace be broken. Spoiler alert: it probably will...

  • The date and your signature.

Some helpful tips...

  1. Handwrite it. It's more personal that way. 

  2. Don't worry about getting it perfect. Think of this as a living document. You're going to revisit and revise it often, especially at first. 

  3. Don't skip it or just think it up in your head. Write it out, sign it and date it. 

  4. Don't hold back. The more fully you commit yourself the more powerful the peace you'll create, and the easier every other step after this will be, and believe me there are some doozys on the way...

If it's helpful for you to share yours with the group, you can attach it to a comment below. No pressure though. The important thing is that you do this for YOU, and the sooner the better. 

Here's to lasting peace. 

Nick



Last updated 12 Jun 2023.